Conventional wisdom

What makes women attractive sexually to men is their body. Man’s sexuality is very much visually oriented, therefore it follows that the women who meet men’s sexual criterias of bodytype and general idea of beauty will be considered by men the most attractive.

What if

What if women’s so-called beauty was not that important? What if there was something more important than beauty, that worked better to get men’s attention and that women were, generally, completely unaware of?

There is such a thing and it is called the woman perception of her own attractiveness. This is the same thing you say. Not so. Let us examine how it works. In several experiments men were shown picture and films of woman naked and otherwise. Men were asked to rate women according to sexual attractiveness. Those experiments were extremely interesting. They showed how men evaluated women sexually among other things the 0.7 ratio was discovered as a dominant factor of attractiveness. Everybody assumed that if men were put in the presence of women with no interaction (no formal or informal conversation allowed), the men would choose the women that had been rated the highest when showed on pictures or films. The researchers were astounded to see that it was not the case. After a while they had the idea of asking the women themselves how they rated themselves as far as their perception of their sexual attractiveness. They were on to something. There was an almost direct correlation. Men chose women in almost perfect accordance to how well the women rated themselves. The bottom-line is the following: men will find attractive women who find themselves attractive.

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Does that mean that a woman who should normally be perceived as ugly could change that by thinking that she is very beautiful? Well, theoretically yes but you have to remember that beauty’s criterias are pretty well known and accepted so it seems a difficult task at best for an ‘ugly’ woman to radiate sexual confidence. That being said, there is a legion of so-called ‘ordinary looking’ women who could access to ‘official beauty’ if there is such a thing merely by working on their confidence.

Psychologists are presently looking on a possible link between ‘perceived beauty’ (how the women rate themselves) and the way they were perceived by their parents with a special emphasis on the father’s opinion.

What to make of it

Men get sexually interested by women who see themselves as interesting sexually. Women’s opinion of themselves is statistically more important than their actual body shape or beautiful features. But here is another interesting thing. When shown pictures, men do not choose the same women as when they see them in person without actually talking to them. Now ready for this? When they are allowed to talk to them and have to make a decision as to who they would approach (either for sex only or for a more serious relationship), their criterias completely change again. What are they? Well, look for it on another entry on what makes a girl popular.